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What To Get Your Babe For Valentine’s Day And Why You’re Probably Overthinking It

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Stuck on what to do this Valentine’s day? Thinking of romantic things to do or gifts to give? To be honest, you’re probably overthinking it and here’s why.


We’ve all seen some kind of romantic comedy or love story where the charming man and wide-eyed innocent girl fall in love, have some sort of mix up, and end up together for their happily ever after. We’re surrounded by a culture that offers a well-intentioned but skewed idea of love. These stories highlight romanticism {very different than love} and tell us true love must mean a crazy expectation of things- the end to all loneliness, the ability to understand us entirely and on all levels, to be showered with love and gifts, to follow our feelings and not plausible considerations… And to be honest, I think men feel the pressure of this way more than women. I think they see these things or hear us swoon over these ideals of romanticism and feel as though they aren’t enough. 


I’m not going to sit here and write about how Valentine’s Day is a sham and how “I don’t need one day of the year to show my partner love”. I’ve read about 100 articles on that already. And, to be honest, I really don’t hate Valentine’s Day. Although I think it’s a social construct and an excuse for companies to jack up prices on flowers and candy, I still think it’s a cute excuse to celebrate love between two people. If you’re one of the many who’s fallen into the routine of every life, Valentine’s Day is a good way to get out of the box for a night and just appreciate one another without anything else in mind.


Last year, Valentines Day 2018, I told Kevin to please not buy me flowers as I find them to be a waste of money, especially on this day of the year, and, instead, to save that money and go to the waterpark. We got drinks and had a blast racing each other down the drop of doom slides.


That being said, I don’t believe in feeling the pressure to need to buy flowers, diamonds, or presents of any kind. Does this mean am I going to say no to diamonds? Heck no! Sure, it’s fun to get things but I’m the kind of person who would rather have something come as a total surprise- not on a day deemed as socially acceptable by society. Plus, like Christmas, Valentine’s Day puts a strain on those who aren’t financially comfortable in feeling this pressure to purchase gifts, fancy dinners, etc. Valentine’s Day shouldn’t make someone feel that way, it should just be about celebrating love.


Here’s a few alternatives to celebrating Valentine’s Day without the splurge:

– Turn your phones off for the entire evening. I think this should be done with any activity you choose. A social media break is so important. Be present, be attentive.

– Order in pizza and watch a movie

– Relive Elementary school and make a DIY Valentine’s Day card

– Host a game night with friends

– Take a cooking class

– Make a heart shaped pizza

– Go see a comedy show

– Check out Etsy and look at cute, affordable, personalized gifts!


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